what i love here is how you’re embracing your space, even when it feels heavy. you’re not letting them make you disappear, and that’s powerful. every time you choose to take up that space, even when it feels hard, it’s an act of resistance. it’s like you’re reclaiming your body, your right to exist fully as you are. honestly, reading this felt like a breath of relief. thank you for writing this.😭😭🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Firstly, I want to admire you for putting these thoughts down. This is so raw and emotional and vulnerable, and it takes a lot of courage to do that. Secondly, you wrote this beautifully.
Thank you for your truth. As a man, I’m sorry you’ve suffered through so much objectification. I’m sure there are plenty of women out there that will feel very seen and heard by your words, which is a beautiful thing.
Wow! Never ever I thought that someone feels similar like this - I never even articulated this thought in my own head but reading your writing - sentence by sentence - I suddenly felt so… understood? 🫠 Like someone actually hugged me and said “I know how you feel, darling. You are brave for embracing yourself.” Thank you for something so beautifully written. ❤️
Especially in my early 20s I felt frustration over my clothes not falling into the same silhouettes that skinnier girls can acheive, so I felt you red dress story a lot.having a healthy body should be celebrated , and yet we are sometimes forced to consider how that healthy body appears aesthetically.
I can relate to this so much. Especially about the understated dress thing - how it looks so breezy and casual on some women, but I feel like I would need to wear a bra, which negates the effect, and how hard it is to find a cute jacket that I could actually close if I wanted to without it looking hugely clunky.
What I hate is how my body type doesn't match the kind of person who I think I am internally. I think I look so cool, maybe playful, maybe mysterious, of course intellectual, but then I see a photo of myself and all I see are boobs.
When I was an adolescent (in the 80's), I went from wanting to look like Madonna to wishing I looked like Patty Smith or k.d. lang. I have found some content creators on Instagram who embrace their size and help me to feel like it's OK to be big and curvy, that I can still be funky and irreverent or cool or edgy if I want, so that's a good thing. (Love your picture in this piece, by the way.)
You put it so well. I'd only disagree with this one (perhaps minor) point: "women... who can go without a bra and not attract a second glance." I don't think any woman can do that.
Makes me think of the Megan Trainer song All about that Bass... Fuck um girl.. You do you! If you're happy with your size, that's ALL that matters. Ignore the lookers/haters when you want to be invisible, and high-five um when you're happy to be seen. 💖💖💖
"my mama, she told me, "Don't worry about your size"
(Shoo-wop-wop, sha-ooh-wop-wop)
She says, "Boys like a little more booty to hold at night"
(That booty, booty, uh, that booty, booty)
And, no, I won't be no stick-figure silicone Barbie doll
(Shoo-wop-wop, sha-ooh-wop-wop)
So if that's what's you're into, then go ahead and move along".
what i love here is how you’re embracing your space, even when it feels heavy. you’re not letting them make you disappear, and that’s powerful. every time you choose to take up that space, even when it feels hard, it’s an act of resistance. it’s like you’re reclaiming your body, your right to exist fully as you are. honestly, reading this felt like a breath of relief. thank you for writing this.😭😭🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
omg brb crying!!!!!
Wow, do I relate to this and thank you. Thank you for saying it. People need to hear this.
Firstly, I want to admire you for putting these thoughts down. This is so raw and emotional and vulnerable, and it takes a lot of courage to do that. Secondly, you wrote this beautifully.
Thank you for your truth. As a man, I’m sorry you’ve suffered through so much objectification. I’m sure there are plenty of women out there that will feel very seen and heard by your words, which is a beautiful thing.
Keep being exactly you. No more, no less. ❤️
Wow! Never ever I thought that someone feels similar like this - I never even articulated this thought in my own head but reading your writing - sentence by sentence - I suddenly felt so… understood? 🫠 Like someone actually hugged me and said “I know how you feel, darling. You are brave for embracing yourself.” Thank you for something so beautifully written. ❤️
AW! hugging eachother through words is everything
Especially in my early 20s I felt frustration over my clothes not falling into the same silhouettes that skinnier girls can acheive, so I felt you red dress story a lot.having a healthy body should be celebrated , and yet we are sometimes forced to consider how that healthy body appears aesthetically.
I can relate to this so much. Especially about the understated dress thing - how it looks so breezy and casual on some women, but I feel like I would need to wear a bra, which negates the effect, and how hard it is to find a cute jacket that I could actually close if I wanted to without it looking hugely clunky.
What I hate is how my body type doesn't match the kind of person who I think I am internally. I think I look so cool, maybe playful, maybe mysterious, of course intellectual, but then I see a photo of myself and all I see are boobs.
When I was an adolescent (in the 80's), I went from wanting to look like Madonna to wishing I looked like Patty Smith or k.d. lang. I have found some content creators on Instagram who embrace their size and help me to feel like it's OK to be big and curvy, that I can still be funky and irreverent or cool or edgy if I want, so that's a good thing. (Love your picture in this piece, by the way.)
You put it so well. I'd only disagree with this one (perhaps minor) point: "women... who can go without a bra and not attract a second glance." I don't think any woman can do that.
Dependa on your values.
Makes me think of the Megan Trainer song All about that Bass... Fuck um girl.. You do you! If you're happy with your size, that's ALL that matters. Ignore the lookers/haters when you want to be invisible, and high-five um when you're happy to be seen. 💖💖💖
"my mama, she told me, "Don't worry about your size"
(Shoo-wop-wop, sha-ooh-wop-wop)
She says, "Boys like a little more booty to hold at night"
(That booty, booty, uh, that booty, booty)
And, no, I won't be no stick-figure silicone Barbie doll
(Shoo-wop-wop, sha-ooh-wop-wop)
So if that's what's you're into, then go ahead and move along".