Ofc this is partly demand driven (imo if it features in Pride and Prejudice there’s something to it) but there’s a real lack of alternative models in mainstream fiction.
Tangentially I find it interesting that both women and men describe courtship as “being chosen” when they have difficult relationships with it. Ofc piece is correct this is a specific trope wrt women - but as long as I’ve been around angsty guys have described the romcoms they see as “women chooses guy” (who they either ID w/, “so it’s unrealistic,” or don’t, “so it shows I have no chance”)
Wondering when teaching girls & boys how to be men and women became so stereotypically bad. Parents, schools, peer pressure?
AND
Wondering why anyone who has the ability to think around this issue would still buy into this?
And FINALLY
In what universe is it acceptable for a woman to 'fix' a man? If he won't open up to you, it is HIS problem, not yours. All the films you mentioned are Chick Flicks - there are better role models for women out there, dig deeper!
Ofc this is partly demand driven (imo if it features in Pride and Prejudice there’s something to it) but there’s a real lack of alternative models in mainstream fiction.
Tangentially I find it interesting that both women and men describe courtship as “being chosen” when they have difficult relationships with it. Ofc piece is correct this is a specific trope wrt women - but as long as I’ve been around angsty guys have described the romcoms they see as “women chooses guy” (who they either ID w/, “so it’s unrealistic,” or don’t, “so it shows I have no chance”)
I would think that the truth of it is that there is mutual choosing going on.
Definitely true - and ultimately, both individuals want to be “chosen” in that they want to be seen and loved for what is seen.
Wondering when teaching girls & boys how to be men and women became so stereotypically bad. Parents, schools, peer pressure?
AND
Wondering why anyone who has the ability to think around this issue would still buy into this?
And FINALLY
In what universe is it acceptable for a woman to 'fix' a man? If he won't open up to you, it is HIS problem, not yours. All the films you mentioned are Chick Flicks - there are better role models for women out there, dig deeper!
Blame the system, all these just seem like coping mechanisms on both sides